Is Just A Handful Enough?
Let’s face it, dating can be stressful. There are so many rules for dating and multiple tips from varying sources it’s hard to remember them all. But there are really only a handful of dating tips one needs in order to be successful and they are all tried and true methods of success.Tip #1 – Be Honest
When it comes to meeting the right person, you will want to be honest but is there such a thing as too much honesty? Actually there is. If you’re too honest, especially about bad experiences with past relationships or admitting to just getting out of one, that will be a big turn off for a new love interest. Referencing old relationships is a big mood killer when attempting to get to know a new person. Then things just become extremely awkward which is exactly what neither party wants.Tip #2 – Lighten Up
Relax! This may seem impossible to do but by calming down the other person will be more relaxed too. This will make conversation flow much more easily and naturally.Tip #3 – Chat Topic No No’s For A First Date
Don’t talk about finances, kids, or a desire to be married. Those are all heavy topics best reserved for later dates. If the chemistry is real, those topics will eventually make their way into conversation by themselves when the time is right, probably as early as a few weeks into the new relationship but everyone is different.Tip #4 – Hmm, To Pay Or Not To Pay
So who pays for the meal? This is a tough question to answer as today’s society has changed. As a general rule of thumb it is still traditional to let the other person pay however it is acceptable to offer to pay your half. It should be said though that if both parties pay separately then the date is seen as being extremely light and casual…to the point of it almost not being a date. So sometimes, especially for the first date it is better to let the person that did the asking for the date pay for everything.Tip #5 – Punctuality Is Key
Be on time! Don’t be late to a first date. That says a lot about a person in regard to their idea of commitment. If making it to a first date is too hard then what does that say about the wedding day, or even an interview for a job?Tip #6 – It’s All In The Eyes
Do maintain eye contact. This is extremely important. Staring is never nice but looking away for too long makes it seem like the time together (or the other person) isn’t interesting. Lock eyes for a few seconds, maybe nod or something to acknowledge actively listening of the other person and then glance down at the menu or something else. Remember not to worry too much about being nervous, more than likely both parties will be feeling the same way!Tip #7 – Just Be You
As with any rule of dating, the best method for any successful date is simply to be oneself. Putting on a façade is only going to make the relationship be built on a lie and trust is one of the most important things a good relationship needs in order to thrive.Hang In There!
So, if for some reason that first date doesn’t pan out even after all these tips have been used, don’t lose heart. There are many, many other people in the world and that perfect person could be just one date away.Successful Dating Tips & Ideas For That First Date!
Do First Date Impressions Really Count?
You’ve got the first date jitters and you’re not sure where to go or what to do and the thought of conversation with her gives you instant brain freeze! Here are a few ways to stop that nervousness from showing with these first date tips.It’s been said time and time again, so there has to be something in it. When it comes to dating or being on a date, you have GOT to learn how to relax. What kind of impression are you going to give if you are tense, nervous, shy and constantly tongue-tied Keep in mind that your date is probably more nervous than you are. In being relaxed you show and that you are comfortable and confident in who you are. That is what she will be looking for. If things are really looking bad in a moment, take some deep breaths, exhale, drop those shoulders and deep breathe some more. It’s only a date. Don’t take the date or yourself so seriously. Lighten-up and have some fun. There will either be chemistry on your first date or there won’t and if there is, you probably won’t have time to be nervous.
Where To On That First Date
How do you know where to take your date? It’s not as difficult as you may think. Remember, this is a first date and you want to get to know her. Taking her to a bar or club where the music is so loud it’s impossible to be heard is not going to be able to get to know her at all. Even going to a movie might not be a good idea when you can’t talk in the cinema. How are you going to get to know her then?The ideal setting is somewhere casual. Choosing a lunch or coffee date rather than dinner gives you the opportunity to get to know each other. Remember that lunch usually takes a couple of hours as does going to a coffee house. When time is up it’s up. Spending a couple of hours with your date is going to let you know if you get along or not, have some things in common and if there is any chemistry at all. You can always ask her out for another date if things have gone well, or invite her out for a dinner date later that evening if things look promising. If things are not going the way you envisioned, a simple “It was nice meeting you, thank you for coming” at the end of the date should suffice. This way you don’t give false hope to your date by asking for her number.
Do you have a place where you spend a lot of time? Somewhere where you know the names of the people that work there and they in turn know your name too? You’ll be surprised how trustworthy she is going to think you are by taking her to a place where everyone knows you for that first date. It goes without saying that you are showing how comfortable and confident you are in this setting regardless of the fact that it’s a first date, so take advantage of it. It also gives her an idea of how you really are in an environment that you spend a lot of time in. It gives her a chance to get to know how you really are and what better way to do that than to be in a place you like.
Tongue tied?
What to say? What to say? “What am I going to talk about”? Does this sound familiar? Okay, so we know that keeping the conversation flowing is what probably what has you tied up in knots the most. Let’s look at some things you can talk about and others that aren’t such a good idea.Write a list of questions that you want to ask her if you think you might suffer from “stage fright”. You want to keep the conversation fluid so don’t start a “Spanish Inquisition”, this is only going to make her feel like she is being drilled. It’s bad enough that it’s a first date and she will be feeling nervous too. Let her elaborate on a topic if she feels comfortable with it and ask more on that topic. Share your interests with her and see if she is interested in those too. Remember she is not one of your male friends, so while talking about the latest sports scores might do it for you, it’s probably a turn off for her. Be observant to the way she responds on certain topics, you will know if you have hit a dead spot when the conversation stops.
Don’t forget to be attentive when she is talking. Take note of her body language and what it’s telling you. Maintain eye contact as much as possible and don’t forget those nods and responses to what she is saying. It shows her that you are interested in what she has to say and that your attention is completely on her. What better impression is that for a first date!
Stop Stressing!
The best way not to stress so much is by just being you. Don’t worry about what you think she is looking for or a certain way she expects you to act. You are who you are, not someone else and she will like you for who you are and be impressed that you are comfortable and confident in your own shoes.A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.
It’s not as scary as you might think if you take these few ideas and helpful hints and tips into consideration. Treat the date as an adventure. Relax, have fun with it and enjoy that first date..
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